As word of these charges spread a number of other former members of St. Peter Presbyterian Church also stepped forward and corroborated the allegations, including the fact that some of their own children had been plied with alcohol without their consent. I do think CR is better, but even as good as CR is the results are anything but impressive. Now I can look back and say, How in the world did we not see how destructive their theology and community was? R.C. For several decades the 12 step model/solution has been the dominant one in US treatment facilities. When I was 12yo I began babysitting for a family who regularly attended my church. The ceiling didnt come crashing down and God didnt scream from the rafters, Sinners, the lot of you! What he did was wrong and could have been much worse than it turned out to be. We don't know the extent to which RC2 family have tried to get help for him, but RC1 is a faithful brother of all of us in Christ. He needs to make amends for that. Now youre just provoking more? If you think that is hateful, your gripe is with the Bible not with me. Its not uncommon for conversations to turn sour when people who care deeply about a topic find themselves talking past each other. Having said that, I suggest you read the verses I gave (1 Cor 5:11-13). I believe it. The process which Christ Jesus taught was not kicking someone out. Because if everyone drinks like he does, it then becomes NORMAL! I read this website often . I think they have missed the entire point of Rom. I got hit by it some 20-odd years ago, when my bathtub plumbing sprung a slow leak into the unit below me, occupied by a retired rummy (retired as in Im Retired!). Thats awful. (LogOut/ When an alcoholic stays sober for a length of time, with the first drink they take, theyre right back where they left off. Some might call it being accountable. Im not incorrect. The key part to what Deborah added was the addict has to want to be helped., Ill admit to being too lazy to scroll back up the page to read Barbs original comments, but I dont recall her asking for anyone to be publicly humiliated (?). Al-Anon equips people who have been harmed by problem drinkers to learn how to take care of themselves, and thats different for every person. I am so sorry that her parents were killed. I guess in a way it is a statement that is all some can make at the time, but they do it anyway. The response speaks for itself. Why? Velour wrote: Sproul was born in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, as the second child of Robert Cecil Sproul, an accountant and a veteran of World War II and his wife, Mayre Ann Sproul (ne Yardis). However it might have happened, we did not see it until we were out. While it is your prerogative since it is your blog, there are other legitimate treatment methods that do incorporate the word and there is nothing wrong with it. I never found any of that helpful in coping with depression, anxiety, or grief after my mother died. @Velour, now Im getting your Dark Ages polemic. Sproul Jr to have a problem with alcohol and be getting drunk repeatedly as people are saying. We were basically a para church ministry. She died after a 10-year battle with progressive supranuclear palsy, a rare neurological disease for which there is no cure and about which little is known. His father most definitely CAN keep Jr. from standing in the pulpit. Without Srs support Jr would have had no choice but to seek another vocation in 2006 after his defrocking. Correct me if Im wrong! As a Christian I have to look at it like their eternal soul is the MOST important thing of all, much more important than any earthly hardships could be. Loving accountability along the way always helps prevent expulsion because it can guard against backsliding. Barbara simply made some kind of reference to Scripture about biblical discipline that you dont agree with. I used to be a nurse so that word is familiar to me. Treatment can help only those who reach rock bottom. but continue in the faith. Not all former drinkers transform into likeable people. Same in books on domestic violence those who are experts on DV will tell readers dont waste time bringing your abusive husband into marriage counseling, because marriage counseling is ineffective at treating abuse. Wonder what will happen to churches or SBC leaders if they are not willing to sign off on this resolution? Im convinced thats exactly what Mr. and Mrs. (Vesta) Sproul have done to their Precious. I dont say it out of ignorance or just speculation. Theres so much pain in the world. They and their families are all the better for it. In fact just this evening I went to mass followed by a going away party for our young and much beloved assistant pastor (who is being assigned by the Jesuits to another location much to all our distress). We all grieve over our grown children when they inflict pain on themselves and others knowing that most of the time our help is rejected. or an idolater, [worshiping false gods] No excuses for it, ever. Earlier, I posted this comment on a FB page discussing this mess. RC2 has been off the rails for a long time and has been able to act outrageously under his fathers overt protection. Thank You. Leave him alone! Apologies for hitting to soon and posting. The Bible teaches us what true fellowship of the believer looks like. I would be very surprised if he hadn't at least been required to go to a few meetings. Does that mean those holding different views will be given the left boot of fellowship? Another very insightful comment. I said in my post that the topic is banned on your blog (which is a shame, because learning about it has helped me immensely. Assuming there is a correlation only gives Sproul the perfect excuse he needs to justify his drinking, and I can guarantee you its also the excuse he used with his drunk driving attorney who then used it on the Prosecutor and Judge: My client lost his wife to cancer in 2011 and his daughter in 2012. 2. being too negative and saying nothing works (which I did not say in the first place). Having debunked this mythical correlation could everyone just stop speaking as though there is one? Will his children ever step foot in a church again after seeing their father get publicly humiliated? Julie Anne and I have each explained our thoughts on the topic of this alcoholic pastor multiple times. I dont think many people in American culture know what to make of people who go to social functions and dont stand around with a drink. The church became a sounding gong and clanging cymbal. What a wonderful ministry that you have had! I draw the readers particular attention to Dees phrase: treated by those who are not overly impressed with the Sproul name. (P.S. I dont think he knows what it is to love someone other than himself, and he doesnt do a good job of even that. Velour has been advocate for many hurting people here on this blog, offering prayer lists, & reminding people to give, if they can, to help those in need on TWW, also giving of her own resources. The last surgery was done at Duke when I was a senior there. Whoa, what? On the other hand, theres nothing compelling me to take insulin. I got there at about 9:30. For the record, I said above I dont know where I stand on this. In our former church, which I understand was similar in many ways to RC Jrs church, it involved either calling a congregational meeting (that would be to talk about the situation before taking it to excommunication) and then acting when the congregation was gathered together for worship (the cynical part of me wants to say, The more the merrier but it probably has something to do with holiness and ceremony), an elder would read out a statement and pronounce the excommunication. Barbara could have easily included treatment for alcoholism in her comment. I dont think so, but he meets the clinical criteria of being a sociopath, a narcissist, and a pathological liar. Pittsburgh. This man needs help. Their denial is just a problematic as the person who is the problem drinker. Are you not reading my comments to you? And she showed that she had no clue what kinds of intervention should be done for an alcoholic (or substance abuser) in getting them into treatment and getting help for their spouse and children. not even to eat with such a one., IMHO, these behaviors are socially dangerous, and therefore, that is why, perhaps the Bible says to not socialize with those who practice these specific 6 in the church. I believe you missed the intent of Dees post. Alcoholism is an excuse to drink and every alcoholic in the world usually tries to find an excuse to drink. Too. I think you are misunderstanding me. He was hospitalized, detoxed, and put into psychiatric care with good follow-up and today, he is not drinking and no longer has the severe symptoms. Says that even now, when he sees a half-full glass of wine or beer left over at a restaurant, he has to fight down the urge to run over, grab the glass, and chug the remainder.). Each situation is different. Totally agree with you about his church (and Ligonier, etc.) Actually, at the end of the day he was responsible for his choices. Sentenced aggressively and appropriately Sad but these christian pastors et al wont even go that far with a rapist or child molester. Handling substance abusers in the church requires a multi-pronged approach, best done on the advice of experts in substance abuse who can properly direct the churchs leaders in how to handle it. We have friends who still go to our former church who are blind and brainwashed. That is horrific. Unfortunately, it means humbling yourself and opening up your family to public inspection. That is not repentance, no. She told me before she died that she had forgiven him & she never thought she would. People should not have to die or be maimed before our courts meet out punishments that suit the crime. He said I was his first patient to do that and he complies since he knew we are medical people and could spot a problem with a clot. You responded to me that you think that Sproul 2: should be put out based on his ongoing chronic abuse behaviors, some behaviors that have not been mentioned here (including his abuse of alcohol which has put kids in harms way).. Its about loving the wayward soul back to being restored. Unfortunately, I think he's a psychopath. The job description was medical officer, non-clinical for the VA in which I reviewed medical records and tried to explain medical things to people who had no medical training, including but not limited to the lawyers on the BVA (Board of Veterans Appeals). And I'm sure you didn't mean 'Alcoholism is an excuse to drink' I'm pretty sure you meant something like "Alcoholics use tragedy as an excuse to drink. Please include what quote you are talking about. This past Saturday, June 17, my daughter was married. Ive been a ligonier for years . The point being that even relatively mild hypoglycaemia is known to impair brain function; if I were involved in an accident whilst hypoglycaemic, I would be considered in law to be driving under the influence of medication. Hes a lost drunkard, and a wolf in sheeps clothing on his way to hell. That feels like another put down and Im really uncomfortable with it. They see insult where none was intended, and are quick to react and hurl barbs and insults in retaliation. Now I can look back and say, How in the world did we not see how destructive their theology and community was?. It never came as most of them immediately started looking for the next shiny thing. And again, Im very sorry for the barbs. But now I understand why youve used it. @ Friend: That is also comparing apples to oranges. People go at their own pace. to exercise unusual control over parishioners personal lives . I honestly never looked into RCs children. (And the same goes for HUG where he contemptuously described me as righteous. He probably was already drunk, or at least under the influence. It has been unopened for a month now, waiting for the opportune time to celebrate. That is an important element here. The proper course of action is to not enable someone and to get them into a treatment program. I think Ive read that some people have linked drug and alcohol additions to life situations/trauma/etc and said once that moment in their life passed they were able to drop the drugs and/or alcohol with little problem. She needed that love. He gave several steps to be taken in dealing with a professed believer who is living a life of rebellion against God. In my recent bout with serious pain from psoriatic arthritis, I found that 4 oz. 2. codependency). I didnt know about his second marriage. They should be more vivid. Amen! THEN, the problem grows even larger. A man with enough of a track record to be REJECTED by the Presbyterian Church in America when he sought to have his ordination accepted there as a Teaching Elder and opted to go the micro denom route. But I wouldnt support putting him out of the church the way hes put others out. Hopefully an intervention can be done on Sproul 2 and his minor children can be removed from his care since he is a danger to them. There are many programs that are funded by grants and charitable donations to pay for these services. To say that this is the reason he abuses alcohol is obfuscating the real fact that not everyone who goes through tragedy becomes an alcoholic. What a hateful thing to recommend that be done for someone with a serious substance abuse problem. It is great in this day and age with blogs etc. And he does say at the end of the article the Bible does not condemn alcohol, and so I cannot forbid my brother in Christ from drinking. We all hope that Dr. Sproul attempted to intercede with his sons alcoholism, rather than leaving his sons conscience to deal with it he was obviously in trouble. Getting a DUI at St. Peter Presbyterian Church was no big deal and driving on a suspended license was also no big deal. He is also charming, manipulative, an involved father and a liar. Yes, it is helpless to watch people on a path of self-destruction. I would not doubt it all. I, on the other hand, enjoy a glass of wine occasionally. They have to want it themselves, and desperately so. . We have to be humble to accept help, especially if you think you should be a perfect Christian. In time, this changes for the better. And I use the analogy deliberately, because it has just about all of the dead-end singularities from which no light can ever escape: Thats why a Guild Navigator is indispensable when folding space. 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